You may suspect or discover your loved one is dealing with a mental illness, drinking too much, or using drugs. As a family member or friend, you can play a central role in getting them the help they need.
Starting the conversation is the first step. Helpful videos and guides can be found at SAMHSA
How You Can Help:
- Identify an appropriate time and place.
Consider a private setting with limited distractions, such as at home or on a walk. - Express concerns and be direct.
Ask how they are feeling and describe the reasons for your concern. - Acknowledge their feelings and listen.
Listen openly, actively, and without judgment - Offer to help.
Provide reassurance that mental and/or substance use disorders are treatable. Help them locate and connect with treatment services. - Be patient.
Recognize that change does not happen overnight. Continue reaching out with offers to listen and help.
What to Say:
- “I’ve been worried about you. Can we talk? If not, who are you comfortable talking to?”
- “I see you’re going through something. How can I best support you?”
- “I care about you and am here to listen. Do you want to talk about what’s been going on?”
- “I’ve noticed you haven’t seemed like yourself lately. How can I help?”